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When I am thin I am going to…

I said this so often, not living a full life, doing what I wanted because I was waiting to live when I had lost the extra weight.

Life will be so much better when I am thinner.

For many long years I told myself this, I did not do the activities I wanted, and mostly stayed at home.

Life will be better when I am thinner.

I found myself repeating it often.  The only hope. It was like looking through a keyhole at another world.  

A world I wanted to belong to but could not reach no matter how many diets I went on.

I had lost about 14 to 20 pounds out of the 160 I needed to lose when I was told to stop waiting, live now!


I was told, “Why wait until you are thin, travel, do the activities you want now.”  

I was sent to Washington DC for work, I took an evening off and went on a walking tour, then walked around the city.  I went out with work colleagues for dinner, and had a great time.

I lost weight.

The more I started doing the activities I wanted the more I enjoyed life and the more the weight fell off.

Why wait?

Live now, enjoy life!

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How I started my weight loss journey

Like most people I did not gain weight overnight, but losing it was more difficult than gaining it. I tried lots of diets and exercise programs. Had personal trainers, tried low fat, low calorie diets. Diets so low in calories that you were not allowed to exercise while on them.

Diets and Exercise programs were ok to look at but there were some things I had a block on and refused to look at.

That is what stopped me from losing weight. Doing the same thing over and over but expecting a different result means failure. I needed to look at other tools.

Diet and exercise are two tools that are looked at and used by people. Are they permanent? Does everyone who goes on them lose weight and keep it off? No.

Tools are there to help us and the more tools we use the more permanent the weight loss and the easier it is.

So what made me change? Why did I look at other tools?

I was at the end of my rope, unhappy and desperate to live my life not just exist. Work had become my life.

Talking to a normal weight person who had successfully lost weight 7 years before and had kept it off was what set me on my new path. She had an active life doing activities I had always wanted to do and was happy.

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In order to have the same happen to me, I needed to change my thoughts and opinions. Changing how I thought was very difficult.

I did research, searching the internet for information about weight loss surgery. Was it an easy option? How many people did it fail on? How long did it take to lose the weight?

I was sure that there was something wrong with me and that if I had weight loss surgery that I would not lose the weight and I would be the percentage that failed.

But what were my options? Stay large and be unhappy, existing rather than living or I could take a chance and maybe succeed.

Live my life!

I took a chance and changed my life, but weight loss surgery was not the only tool I used. More about that next week.

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How Goals Helped me Succeed with Weight Loss

I am a very goal oriented person. I never used to be, I was more of a dreamer. Wishing and meandering through life. I saw some lovely places but was in a job I didn’t like and lived in a place I didn’t like either.

Goals sorted that all out.

Then when I found myself unhappy and extremely overweight I used goals to get me out of that position.

I was a size 10 in 1997 when I arrived in the UK. I wanted to be that size again.

Knowing what didn’t work for me helped. Because I had been overweight for many years I know what diets that I had only lost 5 pounds or so on. So they would not work.

When I decided to have weight loss surgery I researched the average weight loss, the length of time it would take me and calculated what my weight loss should be each month. One site mentioned that most people lose 75% of the weight they want to in a year.

2 months in I was not on track, in fact I was not even close to meeting my target. If I had not had the monthly milestone in mind I probably would not have know that I was so bad at the weight loss. Because I did not reach my goal I called my dietician and discussed what I was eating.

She helped me see what food issues I was having and put me on the right path. I slowly changed my eating and over months it changed drastically, just with the small changes I made.

Exercise had to change as well. Since my bariatric medical team insists that weight loss is sustained for life through a healthy diet and exercise it meant I needed to exercise.

I was walking 10,000 steps before my operation and tried to do that right after. That was not a good idea. My energy levels went down 2 weeks after the op and I felt I was walking through sand.

I over did it. I was not eating enough for the amount of activity I was doing at work.

Steps Stairs Up Staircase Stairway
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By dropping my daily step goal to 1,000 and taking the bus more as my diet improved I slowly increased my steps. So I set a goal to reach 10,000 steps again.

I added 250 steps to my step goal each week. It was an amount that I could add and not notice during a day, maybe an extra trip to the tea point and an extra trip to the toilet.

Some weeks I felt well enough to add another 250 steps mid week.

As my fitness increase and my diet became more nutritious I lost a lot more weight. The fat was sliding off me.

I reached my goal in 7 months, that was just over 150 pounds lost.

I now set more goals and am more conscious about making the milestones short enough that I can reach them within a couple of months, hopefully shorter.

Take a look at the 3 day course on goals if you would like to reach your goals faster.